Friday, November 16, 2018 an event around here. It's almost as if the child has a secret coffee pot and is hitting the hard stuff about an hour before, what I consider to be, a reasonable bedtime around PLEASE GOD LET IT BE BEFORE MIDNIGHT o'clock.

The good news is that my partner and I have never really considered actually sleeping together to be a cornerstone of our relationship. I am a light sleeper and he is a heavy sleeper who has leg twitches all night long. Haha, twitches. Let me paint a better picture. His legs are legitimately like 5 feet long and he raises one of them up (along with the covers on me) and DROPS it like he was suddenly paralyzed (shaking the entire bed). Yes, he needs magnesium, and no he won't take any. There have been nights I would lie there wide awake, rehearsing my inevitable testimony at the murder trial for having smothered him. If the jury is stocked with women, I am pretty confident I'd walk free. I would tearfully look at the jurors and say, "He was a mouth-breather...*dabs eyes*...a mouth-breather." and they'd all look at each other and nod sympathetically.

Of course, there is a time and place for things that are a cornerstone of our's just that after that time, in our own place, it's usually "See ya, player." and I'm out of there. No regrets. When I watched The Crown and saw the bedroom situation in the palace, I was all...Hell yes! Two bedrooms facing each other with an adjoining sitting/dressing room between them. If I ever build a house, this is probably what you will find. Don't worry, it isn't a telling statement of less love for each other...from the beginning, if he fell asleep on the couch, I didn't wake him up. I stretched out across the bed like the spoiled goddess I deserved to be.

We are two independent creatures who don't like to be touched or bothered while we sleep, and our relationship is better for honoring this instead of forcing ourselves to deny it. Of course, Kindred rolls all over me at night but I have a maternal instinct which disables the built-in rage mechanism, so it's all good. Life is too short for crappy sleep.

Dear Kicky,

Sunday, November 11, 2018

I am so grateful to be your mama. 
You are, without a doubt, one of the spunkiest, funniest, smartest creatures I have ever known!!

My days have been brighter just because you are here. I love you, daughter,

Naiya's Aflac Commercial

Thursday, November 08, 2018

Awhile back, the folks at Aflac made this animatronic duck to share with kids newly diagnosed with cancer. The ducks come with these discs that you rub on their chests and the duck responds with the appropriate kind of quacks. A friend of mine is a play therapist and said that this definitely play therapy, which has been shown to work wonders for kiddos. The ducks turn their heads and look at the children too, which is so cute. Oh, and they ducks will talk to each other, so if two kids with ducks are together, the ducks interact.

So, they came to Vanderbilt and let the kids try the ducks out while filming a commercial. And, Naiya is one of the stars of that commercial! Last week, they returned with the ducks as gifts for the kids. It was such a special day and my eyes fill with tears every time I think back on it. There was a scavenger hunt, on-site embroidery station to add the ducks names to their special backpacks, necklace making station, little ducks for siblings/besties, catered food, and a million big smiles on little bitty faces.

It feels amazing to be back out with my besties (missing Nova & Kat, of course.) having the kind of day kids should have. Vanderbilt really steps it up for the kids, I have to give them credit for that. No one should ever have to go through what these kids and their families go through...but it makes a huge difference to have so many folks down there trying their best every day to make it a little easier on everyone else. I will always love them for that.

Another link for the commercial HERE. 

Movers & Shakers

Tuesday, November 06, 2018

...even as it feels like screaming into a void around here.
But, one mustn't give up hope.

'Twas The Night Before The Election...

Monday, November 05, 2018

...and all through the house,
not a creature was stirring,
except for a Mama...
(who was feeling the enormity of all that's at stake)

Halloween 🧡

Friday, November 02, 2018

Because of the forecast situation I mentioned yesterday, we got to Trick or Treat with the family on the 30th and spend actual Halloween at home. I kept waiting for the promised deluge all day, but it barely sprinkled. So, by trick or treat time, we were dressed up again, music blasting, and ready with the candy.

An hour into it, we hadn't had anybody but Kicky's neighborhood bestie. I felt like I'd wandered into The Twilight Zone! We live across the street from an elementary school, in a neighborhood with many streets surrounding us. But, no kids were to be seen! We decided to join 'Jessie' and do one lap around the block, where we encountered only a couple of ToTers.

After we returned home, we watched Hocus Pocus until it was past time for any new Trick or Treaters. I estimate we had around 20, and some of those were in groups. Dylan wound up with entirely too much candy but we had a good time and I'm grateful that the rain held out.


Thursday, November 01, 2018

Ash turned on the Snapchat filter and luckily my long arm helped us get a good overhead shot. But, here we are. We could not be more different in many aspects, but we love each other.